Reset Your Thinking Day 21 – UrEsteem
“Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing.” ― August Wilson
Low self-esteem is a negative evaluation of oneself. This type of evaluation usually occurs when some circumstance we encounter in our life touches on our sensitivities. We personalize the incident and experience physical, emotional, and cognitive arousal. This is so alarming and confusing that we respond by acting in a self-defeating or self-destructive manner. When that happens, our actions tend to be automatic and impulse-driven; we feel upset or emotionally blocked; our thinking narrows; our self-care deteriorates; we lose our sense of self; we focus on being in control and become self-absorbed.
Self-esteem is not set in stone. Raising it is possible, but not easy. Ur self-esteem grows as you face your fears and learn from your experiences. You can start by doing these steps.
- Practice self-care. Make new lifestyle choices by joining self-help groups and practicing positive health care.
- Stop and take notice. Pay attention to the familiarity of the impulse. Our tendency is to overreact in the same way to the same incident. Awareness of the similarity can be the cue to slow our reactivity.
- Choose response. Hold self-defeating impulses. Act in a self-caring and effective way. By choosing to act in a more functional way, we take a step toward facing our fears.
UrEsteem is the building up of your self. Begin today by practicing self care, pay attention to your impluses and choose carefully your response to every situtation. #ResetYourThinking #UrEsteem